Going on your own path

The whisper, the jump and the swimming...

I am having a lot of conversations lately with coaches and creatives about resilience, balance and authentic choices.

No matter where the conversation starts, we end up discussing the whole package. :) In my last call we started off with “what blocks someone from using and implementing new-found tools” and ventured into talking about our personal values. And how they can show up in even movies we have watched or choices we make for music or art…

That made me reflect on my values and choices again.

I believe that we should strive for “life flow” instead of “work flow”.

Life flow means to me that I can act according to my values and rhythm both in my personal and professional life.

And in a search for that I often make choices, which gets my surroundings to look at me with wide open eyes... :)

I have chosen “different ways” countless times in my life.

Picked different plays, chose the “unpopular one” to be my teammate, decided not to be driven by competition in training sports, chose a profession nobody heard about, moved abroad with a one way ticket, invested in birth preparation courses, breastfed long, chose an often “judged” private school concept, tried different careers both up and down the ladder and went against the stream, when the system required something deeply against my values…

My alternative choices always felt true to me, but since they were not what the majority of the people choose to live by, I get to experience friction on a regular basis.:)

What keeps me on track in those times?

I Trust the Universe (Divine or call it as you please) more than I do Fear.

Fear is always there, yes - but I deeply trust that I am guided and that there is a reason why I feel this inner urge for going another way. :)

I trust the feeling in my body: when the ruminating thoughts (searching for solutions) stop talking and I start to look for the how, not the what - I know I made the right choice.

I trust my energy. My energy is what I exchange with the outside world. So when my energy is showing up for me, I have a much better relationship with myself and others.

So when I follow what my inner nudges has whispered, my body falls into peace and I feel alive and present - that is, when I know I found my solution, and that is where I have to go. For myself. And for others.

And the rest is just withstanding the winds blowing your face and still keep going in the direction you feel you are guided towards and what feels true to you…

1,5 years ago I made a definite choice about not giving up on myself anymore…

Neither in my relationship with myself and others, nor in my career.

It was after under-prioritizing all of my needs and desires becoming a Mother.

The choice was mine. And I don´t regret it.

I followed what felt right in my cells. (I haven´t had much of constructive brain activity anyway for a while from the day and night shifts and endless feedings etc.. :D)

But I ran out of energy and that started to show in all areas. I felt like I couldn´t be as present as I wanted to. I was frustrated and angry often - even if it was not towards my children, I knew they are absorbing that from their environment.

Letting go of the achiever with high sense of control - once I had my newborn not following the textbook - was hard.

Letting go of the full-on mother-mode was not that obvious either.

But I made the shift to believe: I can be both!

A great mother by my values and a fulfilled, energetic and joyful person with feeling successful in a career.

What I also knew: I was striving after a role in which I can exchange and contribute with the whole of me.

I did not want the separation of any parts anymore.

I did not want to only use some of my talents and “skills” (that word, eiii!), I wanted to give all I had. Also what came from my soul. But I wanted also to receive all I was desiring.

Deeply trusting it is possible to create that fully integrated life on my values, I went on a quest to discover more of myself and build a new career unique to me.

So here we are.

Paving the way as we go. Building while living the Sensitive Transition.

A beautiful path even under construction!

I still don´t feel like putting a new label on, what I do.

But I do know how to follow my inner compass and to navigate the stormy waters.

Do I get fearful at times, when the process feels too slow and I am not experiencing measurable results on the outside?

Yes. Because those results could shut down the doubtful chatter and pressure to perform and proving my choices at an instance…

So here my sum-up on how I actually move through those minutes, hours, days or weeks…

What can you remind yourself in times of doubt, fear or judgement?

• To master your co-existence with your fears and trust yourself.

  I look out for evidence in ways I have been supported in my choices by unexpected events, sources and people.

• To co-operate with your rhythm.

  I lean back to the results I have created already in my life at some point based on my own pace. I was acting, when inspired and determined, not when I was demanded to do so. And the results were greatly rewarded vs. the ones based on pressure.

• To respect yourself and honor your worth.

  I believe that we are all born valuable, perfect and worthy as we are. And what might make us question this is just added layers (over the years) leading to us making up unhelpful patterns and meanings. But we are the same person all along in the essence. We all have innate value and gifts. We are all worthy of it all.

You don´t need to prove your value to anybody.

Because the ones, who you are here to exchange your gifts with will recognize them. And the others don´t need to see it, understand it or acknowledge it. They are here for “their others”.

Now I am curious about you.

Have you made up your mind about going “your way” or entertaining the thought of swimming upstream?

Have you already jumped in the waters?

What makes you keep going?

Do you have a thought process/ ritual guiding you back to yourself in times, when the waves are coming at you?

Can´t wait to see where you are flowing in from. ❤️

My fairly unprofessional photo from a sunny, “full range of emotions” kinda day :)